When Key Beliefs Don’t Open Doors: Letting Go of What Holds You Back
Carried Convictions, Heavy Keys: On Beliefs That No Longer Open Doors I have just finished reading a book that depicts beliefs, hopes and choices. The one part of the book that hasn’t left me since is this line: “How strange it is to have carried your convictions like a set of keys, only to realise […]
You Had a Healthy Childhood… So, What Are You Doing Here?
If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone. Many people step into therapy feeling like they need to explain, defend, or even apologise for being here. They imagine therapy is for people who’ve been through something terrible, abuse, neglect, trauma, and if that’s not their story, they feel like an imposter in the […]
Self-Doubt vs Self-Trust: How to Reclaim Confidence in a Noisy World
Lately, what keeps coming up in my practice is self-doubt. It usually starts with something seemingly simple, like making a decision, such as “Should I take this job? Text them back? Say no?”, but later, it expands into deeper reflections: “What’s the best way to heal? How do I build a fulfilling life?” Then somewhere […]
Why Vision Is Essential for Healing and Mental Wellbeing
How visualising your emotional future supports real healing and mental well-being We’re All Told to Look Back. But What If Healing Means Looking Forward? We talk a lot about what hurt us, and we should. Trauma. Inner child. Attachment style wounds. Anxiety responses. People-pleasing. Hyper-independence.If you’ve spent time unpacking these things, you’ve likely made sense […]
From Breadcrumbing to Self-Respect: A Psychological Deep Dive Into Why We Accept Crumbs—And How to Stop
The Seductive Torment of Intermittent Reinforcement We’ve all been there—checking our phones for the fifth time in an hour, replaying conversations in our heads, clinging to vague promises like “We should do something soon!” while days slip by without concrete plans. This isn’t just frustrating; it’s neurologically addictive. Dr. Robert Sapolsky’s research on dopamine reveals why: intermittent reinforcement—when rewards […]
Measuring Your Worth: Are You Using the Right Scale?
Let’s talk about worth—not the kind that fits neatly into a bank statement or a LinkedIn headline, but the kind that lingers in the quiet moments before sleep, the kind that whispers (or sometimes shouts) when no one else is around. The ones that make you accept disrespect and breach of boundaries. Personal worth is […]
What Does Good Mental Health Look Like? (Hint: It’s Not About Avoiding Hard Days)
Imagine waking up and hoping that today will be a breeze—no unexpected challenges, no emotional rollercoasters, just smooth sailing. It’s a comforting thought, isn’t it? Many of us equate this kind of uneventful day with good mental health. But here’s the twist: true mental well-being isn’t about dodging life’s curveballs; it’s about how we catch and […]
Reparenting Yourself: The Key to Heal, Feel Seen, and Build Real Connection
Reparenting Yourself: The Key to Feeling Seen and Valued Have you ever felt like the people closest to you should just know what you need—without you having to say anything? Like, if they truly understood you, you wouldn’t have to explain yourself? If so, you’re not alone. This feeling is often rooted in something much […]
Anxiety Isn’t the Villain – But the Internet Sure Thinks It Is
If you’ve spent any time on the internet searching for mental health support, you’ve probably noticed that anxiety and stress are everywhere. Not just in our minds, but in bold letters, plastered across self-help articles, therapy websites, and social media posts. According to my social media marketing strategist, these words are like catnip for search […]
Triggered? Now What? How to Turn Emotional Reactions into Growth
I’ve noticed that “triggered” has become one of those words that gets thrown around a lot, especially online. Someone disagrees with you? “You’re just triggered.” You see something mildly annoying? “Ugh, so triggering.” But in therapy sessions, I see something different. People often use the term to mean general discomfort, like a warning sign to […]